Emotional abuse is present in certain relationships and is very damaging to the victim.Though there may be no bruises, being constantly ridiculed, put down, and made to feel incompetent or crazy causes a lot of long term damage.It is difficult to shake off the aftereffects of this "programming" by the emotional abuser, but recovery is possible.Here are 3 steps that can help you succeed at overcoming the emotional abuse you have walked away from:
1. Take care of yourself physically.As odd as it sounds, one of the first steps to emotional recovery is a physical one.Not only does the body's health impact the mind's, but the act of caring for yourself is a powerful affirmation that you are valuable and worth the effort of eating right, exercising, and taking supplements.Reduce your intake of junk food, and eat a lot of fresh vegetables, fruit, whole grains, and lean proteins.Work out regularly in a doctor-approved exercise program, emphasizing cardiovascular exercise if possible.
2. Spend as much time around supportive, loving people as possible.This may be friends and family, and/or could include a counselor or coach.Not only do you need to fill your social calendar and avoid isolation, you also need the counterprogramming that your loved ones can provide you.In the aftermath of an emotionally abusive relationship, victims will frequently carry around the messages of criticism and self doubt even after the relationship has been terminated.See you friends, and listen to them.
3. Honor your instincts.As you meet new people or interact on current relationships, begin to hone in on how they make you feel.Are you energized and positive when you spend time with this person?Or do you feel anxious, small or confused?These were likely the feelings you experienced when around your emotional abuser, but perhaps you tuned them out.Now is the time to pay attention to red flags, especially when you get to the point of meeting potential new relationships.
By the way, what is holding you back from making the best choices to achieve the life you deserve?
For a free copy of my ebook, "Strategies For Escaping Emotional Abuse", click here: http://www.stoptoxicrelationships.com/gifts-strategiesforescapingemotionalabuse.html
Shannon Cook is a personal coach and resource guide who has written a number of informative articles and ebooks on the topic of toxic relationships and "difficult" divorces, including the physical, emotional, practical and relationship components.
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